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It’s Official – You Are Parenting a Moody Teenager!

January 26, 2016

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It’s Official – You Are Parenting a Moody Teenager!

Everybody knows that hormones have a lot to do with rampant Teen Moodiness. It’s also true that the teen brain plays a major role in the mood swings, irritability, and the emotional Rollercoaster rides our sons and daughters take us on. In their defense, teenagers don’t always know when to expect their mood swings. Don’t freak out, but know this.  It’s Official – You Are Parenting a Moody Teenager!

Who Let Freddy Krueger in the House?

Teenage “Mood Swings” come with severe emotional climate changes. Imagine this: One minute it’s a warm sunny day and you’re having a lovely talk with your son … then BAMM! Freddy Krueger is in your face and you’re sucked into Nightmare on Elm Street.

There was no warning! There was no visible shift in your son’s attitude or temperament. You barely blinked … and your son did a psychic backflip. When he landed, both of you were up to your thighs in icy slush. He’s fine, but you can’t feel your legs! Wuz up with that! read more …

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Transforming the Parent-Teen Relationship!

January 11, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

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 Transforming the Parent-Teen Relationship!

Are you fed up with your teenager? It’s a fair question. Ask yourself that question when it’s quiet and you can hear yourself think. Ask it when you’re frustrated and out of patience because your teenager has gotten on your Last Nerve. Ask the question when that Last Nerve is raw and exposed … and you conclude that you don’t have a clue about transforming your Parent-Teen relationship.

What is the answer that comes back to you? Be brutally honest in looking at the answer that creeps up on you. Perhaps you didn’t realize you were so angry with your child.

Don’t tell me you’ve never been there! Every parent, at some point in time during the teen years, has been there. I’d go so far as to declare that most parents have been there more than once over the length of time they spent raising their teenager. read more …

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Teenagers’ Quest for Independence!

January 4, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

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 Teenagers’ Quest for Independence!

Welcome to the 16th year of the New Millennium. I don’t think I’ve ever used the word Millennium on this blog.  I only point to it now because we’ve just embraced the 2016 New Year and I want to share a thought about our Teenagers’ Quest for Independence!

Today’s post will be a wee bit shorter. Did you just muffle a “Yaaay!” It’s okay … I get it.  🙂

I want to start the year off by encouraging you to continue to stretch your Parenting Muscles as you deal with the challenge of your teenager’s sprint toward Independence.

But first … Don’t act like you didn’t know it was coming! read more …

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Parenting Teen Turbulence … A Mixed Bag!

December 23, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

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 Parenting Teen Turbulence … A Mixed Bag!

This post marks the end of our looking back at what might have been your parenting experiences.  Parenting Teen Turbulence … A Mixed Bag! is all about what you’re experiencing currently.  Keep these words in mind … It’s a Mixed Bag! 

Level Seven:  The Savings & Loan in Your Heart!

Imagine for a moment that your heart has a Savings & Loan on the premises.  Let’s call it your “Heart-Bank.”  Your daughter’s account was activated the moment you laid eyes on her at birth.  Over the years, automatic deposits and withdrawals were made on her behalf … based on the amount of joy or sadness she brought into your life.  Throughout her childhood, she generated hefty deposits – all the “good stuff.”  Her withdrawals were kept to a minimum.

Even during the Terrible Two’s, your child still made more deposits than withdrawals.  But things changed a bit during adolescence.  Her deposits and withdrawals were a bit more even-handed – 50/50.  Nowadays, the Turbulence of your daughter’s teen years is having a devastating impact on her account.  By age 16, she will have depleted all her savings.  She already owes the Heart-Bank an embarrassing sum in overdraft fees … and her adolescence is not even half over.  If she were not bone of your bone and flesh of your flesh, her account would be in Collections!   NEXT! read more …

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Parenting in the Early “Middle” Years … Tart!

December 17, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

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 Parenting in the Early “Middle” Years … Tart!

Here’s the 2nd Excerpt from “Mom and Dad Don’t Have a Clue!” Remember, we’re still looking back in time at what may have been your early parenting experience.

Level Five: Maintaining Control – A Delicate Balance!

Level Five is where parenting really gets dicey. Honesty and clear thinking on your part … is critically important. Ask yourself a bold question:

“Is controlling my teenager the most important thing to me?”

That question is critically important because it goes to the heart of your ability to cope with, recover from, and celebrate after the Turbulent Teen Years have run their course. So before you answer the question, let me interject a thought … read more …

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Teen Turbulence – Let’s Break It Down!

December 4, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

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Teen Turbulence – Let’s Break It Down!

Teen Turbulence is all the crappy “Stuff” that naturally erupts in the lives of our sons and daughters. It’s the “Stuff” that we parents cannot control … because it’s completely under the control of our teenagers. If you are living with a teenager, Turbulence is either happening now or about to bubble up and splatter all over you.  BUT there’s hope!

Remember Your Teen Years!

Do you recall your teen years? I hope so because it’s important that you feel “Empathy” toward your teenager. That would be the proof that you have not forgotten what it feels like to be trapped in the body and brain of a teenager. read more …

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Teen Culture – Reality Checks and Balances!

November 19, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

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Teen Culture:  Reality Checks and Balances!

We do not live in the world of our grandparents.  This fact alone changes EVERYTHING!

The phenomenon referred to as the Turbulent Teen Years is not an Urban Legion. It has been well documented … and it usually occurs when your child reaches any age that ends with the word “teen.” That would be 13, 14, 15, 16 … you get the idea. The Turbulent Teen Years are specifically labeled for good reason – they are phenomenal.  And all phenomena bear watching very very c-l-o-s-e-l-y.

If you are parenting a teenager, you are probably well acquainted with Teen Turbulence. No doubt you can recall all the Turbulent situations your teen created and the questions you muttered under your breath at the time:

“What was she thinking?”

“Does he even have a brain?” read more …

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“Influence” … the Pearl of Great Price!

August 28, 2015

 “The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

“Influence” … the Pearl of Great Price!

For some of you parents … the Fall 2015 School Year has already begun. If not, it’s beating a path to your door! CONGRATS ON MAKING IT THROUGH THE SUMMER.

I’d like you to think for a moment about last school year … then answer this question:

What was the LAST thing you usually said to your son or daughter … just before he or she headed off to school or got out of your car on school grounds?

The reason I ask is because I want you to give a little more thought to that during this school year. Consider this: Whatever your son or daughter hears you say will contribute in some way to “setting the Tone” for how he or she feels or reacts as the school day begins.

Some of you are already disagreeing with me. You might be saying … read more …

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“Mom and Dad Don’t Love Me!” (Part 2)

June 26, 2015

 “The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

“Mom and Dad Don’t Love Me!”  (Part 2)

Nearly all parents at some point in time … while raising their teenagers … have looked in the mirror and asked at least one of these questions:

“What the heck happened?!!!

“Where’s the kid who stuck to me like glue growing up?”

“Why has she stopped talking to me?”

“When did he get so shut-down?”

Enough already! If you’ve had a good (or decent) relationship with your teenager, he or she DID NOT wake up one morning and decide to “treat Mom and Dad like idiots to see what happens.” You may not want to acknowledge it now, but you were given a boatload of “signs” and “foreshadows” of what’s happening NOW. The reason I know this is true is because I raised a teenager and rubbed elbows with others. read more …

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Mom and Dad Don’t Love Me! (Part 1)

May 18, 2015

 “The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

“Mom and Dad Don’t Love Me!”  (Part 1)

I’m going to start this blog post with an Excerpt from my new eBook titled “Mom and Dad Don’t Love Me!”  Here goes …

Brace yourself! I’m going to hit you with some “tough love” right up front. So let’s get it out of the way.

For however long it takes you to read this book, I will be calling the shots! I’m not going to bite my tongue (or my keyboard) while we’re together. And I won’t back off or back down from anything printed on these pages.

At this point, you might be saying to yourself, “She’s trying to pick a fight!”

Not true. I’m simply trying to get your undivided attention. Why? Because what I want to share with you is too important to treat lightly or ignore … or give you any wiggle room. read more …

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