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Revive Your Parent-Teen Relationship!

May 19, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

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 Revive Your Parent-Teen Relationship!

“Blood” is essential to sustain human life.  “Communication” is necessary to sustain human relationships.  I believe the life-blood of relationships is Communication … but not the same old yackety-yak we may have heard growing up!  Parents today have to interact differently with their sons and daughters when they become teenagers.  This is not easily done, especially when our teens prefer debating us rather having an agreeable conversation.

Allow me to challenge you.  Can you name three parents (excluding yourself) who have enviable relationship with their teenager?  Notice I didn’t ask you to name “families” … that might be nearly impossible.  So I’m asking for individual parents.  Can you name three?  I hope so because if you can’t … things are worse than I thought.

Strong Parent-Teen relationships are the first line of defense against families falling apart at the seams.  Families that fall apart figuratively end up in divorce, separation or other forms of estrangement.  Families that fall apart spiritually get lost in a fog of irreconcilable differences, unforgiveness, bitterness and depression.  In each situation, family members often feel lost in a private hell they cannot escape. read more …

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Parents of Teenagers Practice Love Two Ways

January 18, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

 Parents of Teenagers Practice Love Two Ways

If you know me at all (even if only through this blog), you know that I’m excited about the possibilities of what a Parent-Teen relationship can become. I suspect this will always be true of me … because I know how amazing those relationships can be after they transform. Ultimately, what jump-starts the transformation is Love. BUT when things turn sour and fall apart … it’s always when Parents of Teenagers Practice Love Two Ways.

Love is one of the strongest emotions in the world – perhaps the strongest. Love is unmistakable, immutable and irrefutable. This Love is “Unconditional!” You can always spot Unconditional Love. It’s a “Steel Magnolia!” It nurtures, protects and inspires simultaneously! It hangs tough over the long haul and does whatever it takesFor as long as it takes!  Unconditional Love does NOT know how to fail. read more …

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Transforming the Parent-Teen Relationship!

January 11, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

 Transforming the Parent-Teen Relationship!

Are you fed up with your teenager? It’s a fair question. Ask yourself that question when it’s quiet and you can hear yourself think. Ask it when you’re frustrated and out of patience because your teenager has gotten on your Last Nerve. Ask the question when that Last Nerve is raw and exposed … and you conclude that you don’t have a clue about transforming your Parent-Teen relationship.

What is the answer that comes back to you? Be brutally honest in looking at the answer that creeps up on you. Perhaps you didn’t realize you were so angry with your child.

Don’t tell me you’ve never been there! Every parent, at some point in time during the teen years, has been there. I’d go so far as to declare that most parents have been there more than once over the length of time they spent raising their teenager. read more …

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Parenting – The Great Game of Show & Tell

November 6, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Parenting – The Great Game of Show & Tell!

“Parenting” can be summed up in three words:  “Show & Tell!”  We parents model and teach our children what they need to know …. and we hope they will eventually apply it to their lives.  The challenge with teenagers is this:  They have the ability to judge whether their parents are speaking their personal truth or just giving lip service to ideals they don’t really live up to.

Teenagers will listen to their parents only as long as what we “Show” them reflects what we “Tell” them.  Not so long ago everybody called it “Walking Your Talk”some of us still do.  That’s why I refer to parenting as “The Great Game of Show & Tell!”  It is because our teenagers expect us to Model what comes out of our mouth.  If we fail to do this, they will eventually lose respect for us and call us Hypocrites.

When our sons and daughters lose respect for us … we lose our ability to have any “Influence” in their lives.  That’s a huge LOSS!  And some parents never recover from this.  Why?  Because teenagers have a short attention span where their parents are concerned … and Zero tolerance for Hypocrisy.  So we can’t monkey around with that. read more …

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Fire Up Your Parental Engine!

October 22, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

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Fire Up Your Parental Engine!  Part 1

Today I’m offering ALL parents of teenagers an opportunity to get a free copy of my special report titled “Fire Up Your Parental Engine!” It’s a 19-page eBook available to everyone who completes the Email Signup form on the right side of this webpage. If you’re reading this post somewhere other than on my website … go there now to complete the Email Signup form.  You’ll be emailed a Link to download the eBook.

www.ParentingYourTeenforLife.com

A word of caution. If you are easily offended or don’t really want to read about “New Possibilities” to improve your Parent-Teen relationship … don’t bother signing up. You might not be able to stomach “Fire Up Your Parental Engine!”

I, affectionately, refer to the eBook as a Gift wrapped in lovely layers of unrelenting Tough Love. Others might describe it as an Iron Fist in a genteel Velvet Glove. Grab a copy and reach your own conclusion. read more …

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Candid Camera … “Teen Style!”

September 20, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Candid Camera − “Teen Style!”

Most parents mistakenly think their teenagers are so preoccupied with what’s going on in their world that they don’t care about what their parents are doing. This is not always true. Let me clue you in.

In really sucky Parent-Teen relationships … teens will “lay in wait” for their parents to Slip Up, Screw Up or do something Skuzzy, out-of-Order or out-of- Character … and then pounce on them. Most of the time, it happens after a parent has come down hard on their teen about doing something that he or she knew was wrong. A classic example would be when you catch your teenager pulling half-truths out of thin air and passing them off to you as Truth.

Wait! There’s more …

Some teens think their parents are intolerant Hard Liners. Some complain that their parents are always “coming down on them” for minor stuff. (Okay, I know there’s a difference of opinion on what “minor” is … but just go with the flow for now.) These teens say their parents treat them like Criminals before the crime! read more …

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Celebrating Parents – The Wind Beneath Teen Wings

September 17, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

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Celebrating Parents – The “Wind” Beneath Teen Wings!”

In last week’s blog I wrote the following about “Teens with Dreams!”

“I believe the more we celebrate our young people … the more inspired, motivated and positively challenged they will be to believe in their Dreams and in their ability to manifest them. I also believe the “Teens with Dreams!” series will help parents function more effectively as the Wind beneath the Wings of their teenagers who have Dreams.

I want us to begin celebrating the Wind beneath the Wings of “Teens with Dreams!” So today we focus on the Parent of Danette MaKaila … Dr. Linette Montae. You will recall from last week that Danette is the 17 year-old CEO of her company.  Dr. Montae is on my radar this week because she is the Wind beneath her daughter’s Wings in creating a thriving successful business. read more …

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The “Living Large” Dreams of Teenagers! Part 2

September 8, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

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The “Living Large” Dreams of Teenagers!  (Part 2)

Parenting teenagers can be overwhelming, even if you’ve got some experience under your belt. There’s a lot going on with our teens … hormonal activity as well as brain activity! So it’s not wise to judge our teens too hastily or too harshly. Instead, our goal should be to parent mindfully and patiently … for best results.

As Part 2 of the Teens with Dreams series, I promised to introduce you to Danette Makaila, the 17 year-old CEO of Danette Makaila International. Writing about Danette is both a celebration of what she’s accomplished at such a young age and what other Teens with Dreams are doing here in the U.S. and around the world.

I believe the more we celebrate our young people … the more inspired, encouraged and positively challenged they will be to believe in their Dreams and their ability to accomplish them. I also believe the Teens with Dreams series will help parents learn how they can best SUPPORT their teens as they work to accomplish their Dreams. read more …

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Mom and Dad Don’t Love Me! (Part 1)

May 18, 2015

 “The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

“Mom and Dad Don’t Love Me!”  (Part 1)

I’m going to start this blog post with an Excerpt from my new eBook titled “Mom and Dad Don’t Love Me!”  Here goes …

Brace yourself! I’m going to hit you with some “tough love” right up front. So let’s get it out of the way.

For however long it takes you to read this book, I will be calling the shots! I’m not going to bite my tongue (or my keyboard) while we’re together. And I won’t back off or back down from anything printed on these pages.

At this point, you might be saying to yourself, “She’s trying to pick a fight!”

Not true. I’m simply trying to get your undivided attention. Why? Because what I want to share with you is too important to treat lightly or ignore … or give you any wiggle room. read more …

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Pump UP the Volume on Your Parent-Teen Relationship!

April 14, 2015

 “The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Pump UP the Volume on Your Parent -Teen Relationship!

Most people don’t dance a jig or shake a tail feather when they realize they need to make some changes in their life. Some people would rather slit their wrist than try to change … even though they know making a change is the RIGHT thing to do. read more …

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