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Summer Break … Make It Count! Part 1

June 15, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Summer Break – Make It Count!

Parents!  There are a ton of programs and activities to keep your teenager happily engaged and entertained throughout the Summer Break.  Many of these programs and activities are designed to make the summer a “Rockin’ Good Time!”  Other programs are cleverly crafted to keep your teen Amped-UP so that he or she returns to the classroom in the fall … fully prepared to do well academically.  My point here is — you have lots of choices!

As you examine your options, I’d like you to consider one that I put together for you and your teenager.  It’s called “Summer Break – Make It Count!” and it’s not so much a program as it is a Project that’s performed in a series of Free-style Conversations.  The Project is designed to help you and your teenager re-Discover each other and re-Vive your Parent-Teen relationshipSound Ambitious?  It is!  But families who embrace the Summer Project know first-hand that it’s a positive Game Changer! read more …

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Parents of Teenagers Practice Love Two Ways

January 18, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

 Parents of Teenagers Practice Love Two Ways

If you know me at all (even if only through this blog), you know that I’m excited about the possibilities of what a Parent-Teen relationship can become. I suspect this will always be true of me … because I know how amazing those relationships can be after they transform. Ultimately, what jump-starts the transformation is Love. BUT when things turn sour and fall apart … it’s always when Parents of Teenagers Practice Love Two Ways.

Love is one of the strongest emotions in the world – perhaps the strongest. Love is unmistakable, immutable and irrefutable. This Love is “Unconditional!” You can always spot Unconditional Love. It’s a “Steel Magnolia!” It nurtures, protects and inspires simultaneously! It hangs tough over the long haul and does whatever it takesFor as long as it takes!  Unconditional Love does NOT know how to fail. read more …

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Teenagers’ Quest for Independence!

January 4, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

 Teenagers’ Quest for Independence!

Welcome to the 16th year of the New Millennium. I don’t think I’ve ever used the word Millennium on this blog.  I only point to it now because we’ve just embraced the 2016 New Year and I want to share a thought about our Teenagers’ Quest for Independence!

Today’s post will be a wee bit shorter. Did you just muffle a “Yaaay!” It’s okay … I get it.  🙂

I want to start the year off by encouraging you to continue to stretch your Parenting Muscles as you deal with the challenge of your teenager’s sprint toward Independence.

But first … Don’t act like you didn’t know it was coming! read more …

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Parenting Teen Turbulence … A Mixed Bag!

December 23, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

 Parenting Teen Turbulence … A Mixed Bag!

This post marks the end of our looking back at what might have been your parenting experiences.  Parenting Teen Turbulence … A Mixed Bag! is all about what you’re experiencing currently.  Keep these words in mind … It’s a Mixed Bag! 

Level Seven:  The Savings & Loan in Your Heart!

Imagine for a moment that your heart has a Savings & Loan on the premises.  Let’s call it your “Heart-Bank.”  Your daughter’s account was activated the moment you laid eyes on her at birth.  Over the years, automatic deposits and withdrawals were made on her behalf … based on the amount of joy or sadness she brought into your life.  Throughout her childhood, she generated hefty deposits – all the “good stuff.”  Her withdrawals were kept to a minimum.

Even during the Terrible Two’s, your child still made more deposits than withdrawals.  But things changed a bit during adolescence.  Her deposits and withdrawals were a bit more even-handed – 50/50.  Nowadays, the Turbulence of your daughter’s teen years is having a devastating impact on her account.  By age 16, she will have depleted all her savings.  She already owes the Heart-Bank an embarrassing sum in overdraft fees … and her adolescence is not even half over.  If she were not bone of your bone and flesh of your flesh, her account would be in Collections!   NEXT! read more …

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Parenting in the Early “Middle” Years … Tart!

December 17, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

 Parenting in the Early “Middle” Years … Tart!

Here’s the 2nd Excerpt from “Mom and Dad Don’t Have a Clue!” Remember, we’re still looking back in time at what may have been your early parenting experience.

Level Five: Maintaining Control – A Delicate Balance!

Level Five is where parenting really gets dicey. Honesty and clear thinking on your part … is critically important. Ask yourself a bold question:

“Is controlling my teenager the most important thing to me?”

That question is critically important because it goes to the heart of your ability to cope with, recover from, and celebrate after the Turbulent Teen Years have run their course. So before you answer the question, let me interject a thought … read more …

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Teen Turbulence – Let’s Break It Down!

December 4, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Teen Turbulence – Let’s Break It Down!

Teen Turbulence is all the crappy “Stuff” that naturally erupts in the lives of our sons and daughters. It’s the “Stuff” that we parents cannot control … because it’s completely under the control of our teenagers. If you are living with a teenager, Turbulence is either happening now or about to bubble up and splatter all over you.  BUT there’s hope!

Remember Your Teen Years!

Do you recall your teen years? I hope so because it’s important that you feel “Empathy” toward your teenager. That would be the proof that you have not forgotten what it feels like to be trapped in the body and brain of a teenager. read more …

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What Society Expects of Parents! (Part 2)

November 12, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

What Society Expects of Parents!  (Part 2)

We do not live in the world of our grandparents.  That fact alone changes EVERYTHING!

The universal “response” of parents to the commitment of the Network of Solidarity would be:  Appreciation!

“We cannot watch over our children and teen-children 24/7, but we know it is critically important that they be watched over.  So we Welcome, Value and Appreciate every effort of the Network of Solidarity to “fill-in” for us … to ensure the wellbeing of our sons and daughters.” 

Parents would have to be careful NOT to divulge the identity of members of The Network because that would render them less than effective with our children and teen-children.  If our children found out how information about them was being funneled to us, it could undermine the purpose of the Network of Solidarity.

Parents would use every means at our disposal to make certain there is NO abuse or twisted intentions in the relationship between our sons and daughters and other adults in their lives. read more …

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What Society Expects of Parents – Part 1

November 10, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

What Society Expects of Parents!  (Part 1)

Ever wonder what Society expects of you as the Parent of a teenager?  If not, let me clue you in.

You are expected to fulfill your parental obligations with or without the tools you need to do that job well.  Here’s what’s “Real!”  There are parents out there who tell me they would do “Jumping Jack” backflips if they had a little help with their son or daughter when they really need it.

And those parents don’t mind being specific about the help they want … whether it sounds realistic or not.  Here’s what they say they want:

⊕  An enhanced GPS “Tracking Device” — to let parents know when and where their teenager is going to go AWOL or is NOT going to use their handy cellphone to call home at a reasonable hour.

⊕  A fully functioning “Mood-Swing Detector” — to send parents an Alert just before their teenager blindsides them with an emotional meltdown for no apparent reason.

⊕  An all knowing “Crystal Ball” — to give parents a hint about what their teenager is thinking when he or she shuts down and refuses to talk … for no apparent reason.

Neither of these desires is frivolous … but it’s not likely that Society can deliver them! read more …

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Parenting – The Great Game of Show & Tell

November 6, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Parenting – The Great Game of Show & Tell!

“Parenting” can be summed up in three words:  “Show & Tell!”  We parents model and teach our children what they need to know …. and we hope they will eventually apply it to their lives.  The challenge with teenagers is this:  They have the ability to judge whether their parents are speaking their personal truth or just giving lip service to ideals they don’t really live up to.

Teenagers will listen to their parents only as long as what we “Show” them reflects what we “Tell” them.  Not so long ago everybody called it “Walking Your Talk”some of us still do.  That’s why I refer to parenting as “The Great Game of Show & Tell!”  It is because our teenagers expect us to Model what comes out of our mouth.  If we fail to do this, they will eventually lose respect for us and call us Hypocrites.

When our sons and daughters lose respect for us … we lose our ability to have any “Influence” in their lives.  That’s a huge LOSS!  And some parents never recover from this.  Why?  Because teenagers have a short attention span where their parents are concerned … and Zero tolerance for Hypocrisy.  So we can’t monkey around with that. read more …

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Fire Up Your Parental Engine!

October 22, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Fire Up Your Parental Engine!  Part 1

Today I’m offering ALL parents of teenagers an opportunity to get a free copy of my special report titled “Fire Up Your Parental Engine!” It’s a 19-page eBook available to everyone who completes the Email Signup form on the right side of this webpage. If you’re reading this post somewhere other than on my website … go there now to complete the Email Signup form.  You’ll be emailed a Link to download the eBook.

www.ParentingYourTeenforLife.com

A word of caution. If you are easily offended or don’t really want to read about “New Possibilities” to improve your Parent-Teen relationship … don’t bother signing up. You might not be able to stomach “Fire Up Your Parental Engine!”

I, affectionately, refer to the eBook as a Gift wrapped in lovely layers of unrelenting Tough Love. Others might describe it as an Iron Fist in a genteel Velvet Glove. Grab a copy and reach your own conclusion. read more …

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