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A Universal Message to Parents!

April 4, 2017

A Universal Message to Parents!

Parents!  Although this article involves Sophia, a nearly three-year-old toddler, there is a powerful message here that I believe is critically important for all our sons and daughters to learn.  Brandi Brenner, Sophia’s mother, has done an excellent job demonstrating that we Parents can change the world by teaching and modeling “Love and Acceptance” in front of our children … and behind their backs!

The article below sends a great message to all Parents.  The truth is this:

“Research suggests that kids ARE NOT BORN with biases about race and gender.” 

That quote speaks volumes about the responsibility of Parents in shaping the world we live in.  All read more …

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“Mom and Dad Don’t Have a Clue!”

March 30, 2017

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

“Mom and Dad Don’t Have a Clue!”

There comes a time in the life of many teenagers when they reach the conclusion that Mom and Dad don’t have a clue about much of anythingespecially them! Many teenagers start suspecting this around the age of 13, but it’s not until they are closer to 16 that the realization gets embedded in their consciousness. After that, every interaction with their parents confirms it: “Mom and Dad Don’t Have a Clue!”

The Mantle of “Independence!”

At Parenting Your Teen for Life, we see this all the time. We take it very seriously, but we recognize it as simply a phase that virtually all teenagers go through. Think of it as a Rite of Passage – your read more …

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Summer Break … Make It Count! Part 1

June 15, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Summer Break – Make It Count!

Parents!  There are a ton of programs and activities to keep your teenager happily engaged and entertained throughout the Summer Break.  Many of these programs and activities are designed to make the summer a “Rockin’ Good Time!”  Other programs are cleverly crafted to keep your teen Amped-UP so that he or she returns to the classroom in the fall … fully prepared to do well academically.  My point here is — you have lots of choices!

As you examine your options, I’d like you to consider one that I put together for you and your teenager.  It’s called “Summer Break – Make It Count!” and it’s not so much a program as it is a Project that’s performed in a series of Free-style Conversations.  The Project is designed to help you and your teenager re-Discover each other and re-Vive your Parent-Teen relationshipSound Ambitious?  It is!  But families who embrace the Summer Project know first-hand that it’s a positive Game Changer! read more …

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Revive Your Parent-Teen Relationship!

May 19, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

 Revive Your Parent-Teen Relationship!

“Blood” is essential to sustain human life.  “Communication” is necessary to sustain human relationships.  I believe the life-blood of relationships is Communication … but not the same old yackety-yak we may have heard growing up!  Parents today have to interact differently with their sons and daughters when they become teenagers.  This is not easily done, especially when our teens prefer debating us rather having an agreeable conversation.

Allow me to challenge you.  Can you name three parents (excluding yourself) who have enviable relationship with their teenager?  Notice I didn’t ask you to name “families” … that might be nearly impossible.  So I’m asking for individual parents.  Can you name three?  I hope so because if you can’t … things are worse than I thought.

Strong Parent-Teen relationships are the first line of defense against families falling apart at the seams.  Families that fall apart figuratively end up in divorce, separation or other forms of estrangement.  Families that fall apart spiritually get lost in a fog of irreconcilable differences, unforgiveness, bitterness and depression.  In each situation, family members often feel lost in a private hell they cannot escape. read more …

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The “Secret Life” of Mothers!

May 8, 2016

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The “Secret Life” of Mothers!

Today is Mother’s Day … so I’m writing to Every Category of “Mother” I can think of:

Biological Mothers

Single Mothers

Adoptive Mothers

Surrogate Mothers

Grand-Mothers

Spiritual Mothers

Mothers-in-Law

This blog post is In Honor of Every Mother in our little Community and across the Globe:

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!

I’m issuing a collective “Thank You!” for Everything YOU do to fulfill your Divine “Triple” Assignment!  I believe the Divine Assignment of every Mother is to Love Unconditionally, Guide Unapologetically and Listen to the Heart of her children.

Every time I use the term “Children” … I want you to think:  Newborn, Toddler, Adolescent, Teenager and Adult-children.

Our Divine “Triple” Assignment

When our children are afraid, disheartened, disillusioned or in despair … our  Unconditional Love soothes, comforts and envelops them in peace – restoring confidence, strength and hope. read more …

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Teen Culture … Veil of Secrecy!

April 24, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

Malbec Grapes

Teen Culture … Veil of Secrecy!

Teenagers growing up in the 21st Century have a bottomless “Pit” from which to draw a variety of self-destructive activities.  If you can imagine some of these activities … they are already in the “Pit” and waiting for our sons and daughters to grab hold of it.

Our teens have greater access to the “Pit” because Teen Culture promotes the Lie that experimenting with Drugs, Alcohol and Prescription Medicine is normalThe New “Normal!”  Teen Culture reinforces the following messages to our teens via music, movies, billboards, television and social media …

“Get Real!  That’s what teenagers do!”  

“You’re going to experience life at some point anyway!”

“It’s all part of growing up!”  

“No Big Deal!”

The challenges our teenagers deal with and the daily choices they have to make were foreign to us when we were their age and unimaginable to our parents when they were teenagers.  The Age of Innocence disappeared several generations ago … and there’s barely any evidence of it left.  I remember the Brady Bunch and the Huxtable Kids with amusement … but those nostalgic days are no more.  Poof!  Gone!  But you already know this.

The New “Normal!”

What I refer to as The New “Normal!” is often terrifying to parents.  Now imagine how terrifying it must be for our sons and daughters, especially those who choose NOT to identify with The New “Normal!”  I refer now to some of our teenagers who make positive choices and have Goals and Dreams they want to pursue.  These are fun-loving teenagers who are NOT interested in Getting High, Sexting or indulging in reckless irresponsible behaviors that jeopardize their health, safety and wellbeing.

The teens I refer to now are NOT winged-Angels.  They occasionally screw up and miss the Mark!  But their parents are proud of who they are becoming.  And each and every day, these teens try hard to behave in ways that make themselves proud of who they are becomingas they lean toward more Independence. read more …

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The Power of a Parent’s Tongue!

April 15, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

The Power of a Parent’s Tongue!

Today … I was inspired!  The inspiration came from Kyle “The Dream” Vidrine, whose Facebook page is brimming with Inspiration and Insight Here’s what I read on Kyle’s page:

“Life and death are in the power of the tongue!

We realize that we can hurt others by what we say. 

But do you realize that you can do the same to yourself?  

What you say to others is a direct reflection of what you say to yourself.”

The first line of Kyle’s quote is taken from Scripture.  The full statement has several powerful universal truths that raised a question in my mind.  Does Kyle’s statement hold true in Parent-Teen relationships?  Without the slightest doubt … I believe it does! 

I believe what we say to our children (especially our teen-children) can empower them to pursue their Dreams and aspirations with courage and confidence. But I also know that parents can clip the “wings” of their teenager’s Dreams and aspirations … and rob them of the self-confidence they need to achieve in other areas of life. This is devastating to teenagers.  In this post, I’m going to share some thoughts about the Power of a Parent’s Tongue(To reach Kyle’s Facebook page, CLICK HERE.) read more …

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Teenagers are Getting High After School!

February 2, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Teenagers are Getting High After School!

Teenagers are notoriously curious. All teenagers! Curiosity can be a good thing, but if parents DO NOT guide and feed the curiosity of their sons and daughters, someone or something else will. No parent wants to believe their son or daughter is involved with Drugs. But the reality is this. Teenagers are Getting High After School!

What Every Parent Should Know

No matter how excellent your parenting skills are and no matter how vigilant you are, your teenager will be exposed to ideas, attitudes, language and behaviors that you oppose.

Most teenagers have some knowledge of Drugs. This includes the Drugs they and their friends wouldn’t be caught dead using and the Drugs either they or someone in their group believes are harmless enough to “Just try once!” read more …

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Parents of Teenagers Practice Love Two Ways

January 18, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

 Parents of Teenagers Practice Love Two Ways

If you know me at all (even if only through this blog), you know that I’m excited about the possibilities of what a Parent-Teen relationship can become. I suspect this will always be true of me … because I know how amazing those relationships can be after they transform. Ultimately, what jump-starts the transformation is Love. BUT when things turn sour and fall apart … it’s always when Parents of Teenagers Practice Love Two Ways.

Love is one of the strongest emotions in the world – perhaps the strongest. Love is unmistakable, immutable and irrefutable. This Love is “Unconditional!” You can always spot Unconditional Love. It’s a “Steel Magnolia!” It nurtures, protects and inspires simultaneously! It hangs tough over the long haul and does whatever it takesFor as long as it takes!  Unconditional Love does NOT know how to fail. read more …

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Parenting Teen Turbulence … A Mixed Bag!

December 23, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

 Parenting Teen Turbulence … A Mixed Bag!

This post marks the end of our looking back at what might have been your parenting experiences.  Parenting Teen Turbulence … A Mixed Bag! is all about what you’re experiencing currently.  Keep these words in mind … It’s a Mixed Bag! 

Level Seven:  The Savings & Loan in Your Heart!

Imagine for a moment that your heart has a Savings & Loan on the premises.  Let’s call it your “Heart-Bank.”  Your daughter’s account was activated the moment you laid eyes on her at birth.  Over the years, automatic deposits and withdrawals were made on her behalf … based on the amount of joy or sadness she brought into your life.  Throughout her childhood, she generated hefty deposits – all the “good stuff.”  Her withdrawals were kept to a minimum.

Even during the Terrible Two’s, your child still made more deposits than withdrawals.  But things changed a bit during adolescence.  Her deposits and withdrawals were a bit more even-handed – 50/50.  Nowadays, the Turbulence of your daughter’s teen years is having a devastating impact on her account.  By age 16, she will have depleted all her savings.  She already owes the Heart-Bank an embarrassing sum in overdraft fees … and her adolescence is not even half over.  If she were not bone of your bone and flesh of your flesh, her account would be in Collections!   NEXT! read more …

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