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“Mom and Dad Don’t Have a Clue!”

March 30, 2017

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

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“Mom and Dad Don’t Have a Clue!”

There comes a time in the life of many teenagers when they reach the conclusion that Mom and Dad don’t have a clue about much of anythingespecially them! Many teenagers start suspecting this around the age of 13, but it’s not until they are closer to 16 that the realization gets embedded in their consciousness. After that, every interaction with their parents confirms it: “Mom and Dad Don’t Have a Clue!”

The Mantle of “Independence!”

At Parenting Your Teen for Life, we see this all the time. We take it very seriously, but we recognize it as simply a phase that virtually all teenagers go through. Think of it as a Rite of Passage – your read more …

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Is Your Teen Getting “High” After School?

February 21, 2017

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Is Your Teen Getting “High” After School?

Teenagers are notoriously curious. All teenagers! Curiosity can be a good thing, but if parents DO NOT guide and feed the curiosity of their sons and daughters, someone or something else will. No parent wants to believe their son or daughter is involved with Drugs. But the reality is this.

Teenagers are Getting High After School!

Parents … Know This!

No matter how excellent your parenting skills are and no matter how vigilant you are, your teenager will be exposed to ideas, attitudes, language and behaviors that you oppose.

Most teenagers have some knowledge of Drugs. This includes the Drugs they and their friends wouldn’t be caught dead using … and the Drugs either they or someone in their group believes are harmless enough to:  “Just try once!” read more …

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Chubby Bunny: Dangerous Game!

July 28, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Chubby Bunny:  Dangerous Game!

For the past several weeks, I’ve pointed out some of the Dangerous Games our teens and tweens participate in during Summer Break and at other times when they have less supervision and more free time to goof off.  Chubby Bunny:  Dangerous Game! is my last blog post about the popular but life-threatening “Games” our sons and daughters can get involved with during the summer when they are …

  • Looking for thrills … in all the wrong places
  • Suckered into … “I Dare You!” challenges
  • Curious about … how something “Feels”
  • Just plain BORED!

In any one of these four states of mind, a number of tweens and teens have turned to Chubby Bunny, a “Game” with a cute name … but like so many others – IS Dangerous!

Here’s the Chubby Bunny definition offered by IceBreakerIdeas.com, a website that provides “everything you ever wanted to know about icebreaker games and activities”:

“Chubby Bunny is a popular, fun game, frequently played by campers around a campfire. Players put an increasing number of marshmallows in their mouths and attempt to clearly and audibly say the phrase “Chubby Bunny”.  The winner is the person who is able to say the phrase with the most marshmallows in his or her mouth.”

Chubby Bunny is Dangerous and Dumb!

If you watch The Doctors, America’s Medical Dream Team, you know they dispense life-saving educational information that their audience can rely on.  The show is hosted by ER physician Dr. Travis Stork and co-hosted by read more …

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Summer Break – Make It Count! Part 2

June 19, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Summer Break – Make It Count!  (Part 2)

As most of you know, the underlying theme of this blog and everything we do at Parenting Your Teen for Life … is rooted in our belief that the quality of Parent-Teen relationships impacts virtually every area of a teenager’s life.  As a result we are always trying to create or uncover and share effective ways of improving the Bond between parents and their teen-children.

I am aware that some parents don’t feel they have a strong Bond with their teenager.  Some might even say the Connection to their teen is ambiguous, at best.  More often than not, these parents are eager to find ways to pull their son or daughter close … to protect and nurture their Parent-Teen relationship.

Throughout the school year, our teenagers are heavily involved with academics, extra-curricular activities and their friends.  Parents have limited access to their teens.  And when we have them within earshot, we’re often barking orders or “laying down the law” about something our teen did or didn’t do … which created Consequences that had to be dealt with.  These and similar situations chip away at the Bond we would otherwise have with our sons and daughters. read more …

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Summer Break … Make It Count! Part 1

June 15, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Summer Break – Make It Count!

Parents!  There are a ton of programs and activities to keep your teenager happily engaged and entertained throughout the Summer Break.  Many of these programs and activities are designed to make the summer a “Rockin’ Good Time!”  Other programs are cleverly crafted to keep your teen Amped-UP so that he or she returns to the classroom in the fall … fully prepared to do well academically.  My point here is — you have lots of choices!

As you examine your options, I’d like you to consider one that I put together for you and your teenager.  It’s called “Summer Break – Make It Count!” and it’s not so much a program as it is a Project that’s performed in a series of Free-style Conversations.  The Project is designed to help you and your teenager re-Discover each other and re-Vive your Parent-Teen relationshipSound Ambitious?  It is!  But families who embrace the Summer Project know first-hand that it’s a positive Game Changer! read more …

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Revive Your Parent-Teen Relationship!

May 19, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

 Revive Your Parent-Teen Relationship!

“Blood” is essential to sustain human life.  “Communication” is necessary to sustain human relationships.  I believe the life-blood of relationships is Communication … but not the same old yackety-yak we may have heard growing up!  Parents today have to interact differently with their sons and daughters when they become teenagers.  This is not easily done, especially when our teens prefer debating us rather having an agreeable conversation.

Allow me to challenge you.  Can you name three parents (excluding yourself) who have enviable relationship with their teenager?  Notice I didn’t ask you to name “families” … that might be nearly impossible.  So I’m asking for individual parents.  Can you name three?  I hope so because if you can’t … things are worse than I thought.

Strong Parent-Teen relationships are the first line of defense against families falling apart at the seams.  Families that fall apart figuratively end up in divorce, separation or other forms of estrangement.  Families that fall apart spiritually get lost in a fog of irreconcilable differences, unforgiveness, bitterness and depression.  In each situation, family members often feel lost in a private hell they cannot escape. read more …

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The Power of a Parent’s Tongue!

April 15, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

The Power of a Parent’s Tongue!

Today … I was inspired!  The inspiration came from Kyle “The Dream” Vidrine, whose Facebook page is brimming with Inspiration and Insight Here’s what I read on Kyle’s page:

“Life and death are in the power of the tongue!

We realize that we can hurt others by what we say. 

But do you realize that you can do the same to yourself?  

What you say to others is a direct reflection of what you say to yourself.”

The first line of Kyle’s quote is taken from Scripture.  The full statement has several powerful universal truths that raised a question in my mind.  Does Kyle’s statement hold true in Parent-Teen relationships?  Without the slightest doubt … I believe it does! 

I believe what we say to our children (especially our teen-children) can empower them to pursue their Dreams and aspirations with courage and confidence. But I also know that parents can clip the “wings” of their teenager’s Dreams and aspirations … and rob them of the self-confidence they need to achieve in other areas of life. This is devastating to teenagers.  In this post, I’m going to share some thoughts about the Power of a Parent’s Tongue(To reach Kyle’s Facebook page, CLICK HERE.) read more …

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Teenagers are Getting High After School!

February 2, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Teenagers are Getting High After School!

Teenagers are notoriously curious. All teenagers! Curiosity can be a good thing, but if parents DO NOT guide and feed the curiosity of their sons and daughters, someone or something else will. No parent wants to believe their son or daughter is involved with Drugs. But the reality is this. Teenagers are Getting High After School!

What Every Parent Should Know

No matter how excellent your parenting skills are and no matter how vigilant you are, your teenager will be exposed to ideas, attitudes, language and behaviors that you oppose.

Most teenagers have some knowledge of Drugs. This includes the Drugs they and their friends wouldn’t be caught dead using and the Drugs either they or someone in their group believes are harmless enough to “Just try once!” read more …

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It’s Official – You Are Parenting a Moody Teenager!

January 26, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

It’s Official – You Are Parenting a Moody Teenager!

Everybody knows that hormones have a lot to do with rampant Teen Moodiness. It’s also true that the teen brain plays a major role in the mood swings, irritability, and the emotional Rollercoaster rides our sons and daughters take us on. In their defense, teenagers don’t always know when to expect their mood swings. Don’t freak out, but know this.  It’s Official – You Are Parenting a Moody Teenager!

Who Let Freddy Krueger in the House?

Teenage “Mood Swings” come with severe emotional climate changes. Imagine this: One minute it’s a warm sunny day and you’re having a lovely talk with your son … then BAMM! Freddy Krueger is in your face and you’re sucked into Nightmare on Elm Street.

There was no warning! There was no visible shift in your son’s attitude or temperament. You barely blinked … and your son did a psychic backflip. When he landed, both of you were up to your thighs in icy slush. He’s fine, but you can’t feel your legs! Wuz up with that! read more …

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Parents of Teenagers Practice Love Two Ways

January 18, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

 Parents of Teenagers Practice Love Two Ways

If you know me at all (even if only through this blog), you know that I’m excited about the possibilities of what a Parent-Teen relationship can become. I suspect this will always be true of me … because I know how amazing those relationships can be after they transform. Ultimately, what jump-starts the transformation is Love. BUT when things turn sour and fall apart … it’s always when Parents of Teenagers Practice Love Two Ways.

Love is one of the strongest emotions in the world – perhaps the strongest. Love is unmistakable, immutable and irrefutable. This Love is “Unconditional!” You can always spot Unconditional Love. It’s a “Steel Magnolia!” It nurtures, protects and inspires simultaneously! It hangs tough over the long haul and does whatever it takesFor as long as it takes!  Unconditional Love does NOT know how to fail. read more …

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