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A Universal Message to Parents!

April 4, 2017

A Universal Message to Parents!

Parents!  Although this article involves Sophia, a nearly three-year-old toddler, there is a powerful message here that I believe is critically important for all our sons and daughters to learn.  Brandi Brenner, Sophia’s mother, has done an excellent job demonstrating that we Parents can change the world by teaching and modeling “Love and Acceptance” in front of our children … and behind their backs!

The article below sends a great message to all Parents.  The truth is this:

“Research suggests that kids ARE NOT BORN with biases about race and gender.” 

That quote speaks volumes about the responsibility of Parents in shaping the world we live in.  All read more …

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Teenagers’ Quest for Independence!

January 4, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

 Teenagers’ Quest for Independence!

Welcome to the 16th year of the New Millennium. I don’t think I’ve ever used the word Millennium on this blog.  I only point to it now because we’ve just embraced the 2016 New Year and I want to share a thought about our Teenagers’ Quest for Independence!

Today’s post will be a wee bit shorter. Did you just muffle a “Yaaay!” It’s okay … I get it.  🙂

I want to start the year off by encouraging you to continue to stretch your Parenting Muscles as you deal with the challenge of your teenager’s sprint toward Independence.

But first … Don’t act like you didn’t know it was coming! read more …

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Parenting in the Early “Middle” Years … Tart!

December 17, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

 Parenting in the Early “Middle” Years … Tart!

Here’s the 2nd Excerpt from “Mom and Dad Don’t Have a Clue!” Remember, we’re still looking back in time at what may have been your early parenting experience.

Level Five: Maintaining Control – A Delicate Balance!

Level Five is where parenting really gets dicey. Honesty and clear thinking on your part … is critically important. Ask yourself a bold question:

“Is controlling my teenager the most important thing to me?”

That question is critically important because it goes to the heart of your ability to cope with, recover from, and celebrate after the Turbulent Teen Years have run their course. So before you answer the question, let me interject a thought … read more …

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Fire Up Your Parental Engine!

October 22, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Fire Up Your Parental Engine!  Part 1

Today I’m offering ALL parents of teenagers an opportunity to get a free copy of my special report titled “Fire Up Your Parental Engine!” It’s a 19-page eBook available to everyone who completes the Email Signup form on the right side of this webpage. If you’re reading this post somewhere other than on my website … go there now to complete the Email Signup form.  You’ll be emailed a Link to download the eBook.

www.ParentingYourTeenforLife.com

A word of caution. If you are easily offended or don’t really want to read about “New Possibilities” to improve your Parent-Teen relationship … don’t bother signing up. You might not be able to stomach “Fire Up Your Parental Engine!”

I, affectionately, refer to the eBook as a Gift wrapped in lovely layers of unrelenting Tough Love. Others might describe it as an Iron Fist in a genteel Velvet Glove. Grab a copy and reach your own conclusion. read more …

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Candid Camera … “Teen Style!”

September 20, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Candid Camera − “Teen Style!”

Most parents mistakenly think their teenagers are so preoccupied with what’s going on in their world that they don’t care about what their parents are doing. This is not always true. Let me clue you in.

In really sucky Parent-Teen relationships … teens will “lay in wait” for their parents to Slip Up, Screw Up or do something Skuzzy, out-of-Order or out-of- Character … and then pounce on them. Most of the time, it happens after a parent has come down hard on their teen about doing something that he or she knew was wrong. A classic example would be when you catch your teenager pulling half-truths out of thin air and passing them off to you as Truth.

Wait! There’s more …

Some teens think their parents are intolerant Hard Liners. Some complain that their parents are always “coming down on them” for minor stuff. (Okay, I know there’s a difference of opinion on what “minor” is … but just go with the flow for now.) These teens say their parents treat them like Criminals before the crime! read more …

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Parenting Teenagers: A Reality Check!

January 1, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Parenting Teenagers: “A Reality Check!”

HAPPY NEW YEAR … PARENTS EVERYWHERE IN THE WORLD!

Let’s just jump right in …  We parents have the unique experience of being our children’s first teacher, counselor, mentor and coach.  We were first to put “words” in their mouths.  We were first to teach them important lessons about kindness, sharing and getting along with others.  In most cases, we were first to teach them about trust – to trust us and our God.

By doing all this “early work,” we hoped our children’s teen years would be less turbulent.  We hoped all our deliberate and skillful parenting would manifest in the “better choices” our teen-children would make as they became young adults.  The lessons we taught our teens were the bedrock of our faith and values – the living legacy we hoped they would embrace.  We hoped our legacy would shape their humanity and enable them to “walk in the world” with a greater capacity to be kindness, trust and generosity. read more …

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Parenting Your Teen Through the Turbulence – Part 1

December 22, 2014

 “The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Parenting Your Teen Through the Turbulence – Pt 1

Did I hear you say you’re fed up with your teenager?  Has he or she gotten all over your one LAST nerve?  Perhaps you’re too ashamed to admit it  … but you’ve just about run out of patience.

Hi, this is Sheila and here’s what I know for sure.

If you are the parent of a teenager and you are NOT experiencing some level of Turbulence in your relationship with your son or daughter … you are very very very fortunate. Perhaps your teenager is a model student and a respectful family member who is still eager to please you. That would be GREAT news!

But if all that sounds foreign to you … don’t freak out! That just means you are part of a very large group of parents who are raising teenagers … and having “mostly normal” experiences with their sons or daughters. Some of those experiences may be alarming at times, but they are “mostly normal”according to the experts. read more …

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When Parenting Teenagers … Expect “Change!”

December 2, 2014

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

When Parenting Teenagers … Expect “Change!”

What’s the good news about parenting a teenager? If you’re raising a teenager NOW, you’re probably struggling with trying to come up with a positive response to my question. If you’re parenting your son or daughter through the “Turbulent Teen Years” … you may not be able to answer the question at all.

I urge you NOT to despair – no matter how challenging things are at the moment. Here’s one piece of good news:

Time does NOT stand still. The challenge you’re dealing with now will eventually end. And something else will take its place. The new challenge will give you other things to focus on – some good, some not so good. That’s Life! read more …

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