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Summer Break – Make It Count! Part 2

June 19, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Summer Break – Make It Count!  (Part 2)

As most of you know, the underlying theme of this blog and everything we do at Parenting Your Teen for Life … is rooted in our belief that the quality of Parent-Teen relationships impacts virtually every area of a teenager’s life.  As a result we are always trying to create or uncover and share effective ways of improving the Bond between parents and their teen-children.

I am aware that some parents don’t feel they have a strong Bond with their teenager.  Some might even say the Connection to their teen is ambiguous, at best.  More often than not, these parents are eager to find ways to pull their son or daughter close … to protect and nurture their Parent-Teen relationship.

Throughout the school year, our teenagers are heavily involved with academics, extra-curricular activities and their friends.  Parents have limited access to their teens.  And when we have them within earshot, we’re often barking orders or “laying down the law” about something our teen did or didn’t do … which created Consequences that had to be dealt with.  These and similar situations chip away at the Bond we would otherwise have with our sons and daughters. read more …

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Summer Break … Make It Count! Part 1

June 15, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Summer Break – Make It Count!

Parents!  There are a ton of programs and activities to keep your teenager happily engaged and entertained throughout the Summer Break.  Many of these programs and activities are designed to make the summer a “Rockin’ Good Time!”  Other programs are cleverly crafted to keep your teen Amped-UP so that he or she returns to the classroom in the fall … fully prepared to do well academically.  My point here is — you have lots of choices!

As you examine your options, I’d like you to consider one that I put together for you and your teenager.  It’s called “Summer Break – Make It Count!” and it’s not so much a program as it is a Project that’s performed in a series of Free-style Conversations.  The Project is designed to help you and your teenager re-Discover each other and re-Vive your Parent-Teen relationshipSound Ambitious?  It is!  But families who embrace the Summer Project know first-hand that it’s a positive Game Changer! read more …

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The “Secret Life” of Mothers!

May 8, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

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The “Secret Life” of Mothers!

Today is Mother’s Day … so I’m writing to Every Category of “Mother” I can think of:

Biological Mothers

Single Mothers

Adoptive Mothers

Surrogate Mothers

Grand-Mothers

Spiritual Mothers

Mothers-in-Law

This blog post is In Honor of Every Mother in our little Community and across the Globe:

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!

I’m issuing a collective “Thank You!” for Everything YOU do to fulfill your Divine “Triple” Assignment!  I believe the Divine Assignment of every Mother is to Love Unconditionally, Guide Unapologetically and Listen to the Heart of her children.

Every time I use the term “Children” … I want you to think:  Newborn, Toddler, Adolescent, Teenager and Adult-children.

Our Divine “Triple” Assignment

When our children are afraid, disheartened, disillusioned or in despair … our  Unconditional Love soothes, comforts and envelops them in peace – restoring confidence, strength and hope. read more …

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Teen Culture … Veil of Secrecy!

April 24, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

Malbec Grapes

Teen Culture … Veil of Secrecy!

Teenagers growing up in the 21st Century have a bottomless “Pit” from which to draw a variety of self-destructive activities.  If you can imagine some of these activities … they are already in the “Pit” and waiting for our sons and daughters to grab hold of it.

Our teens have greater access to the “Pit” because Teen Culture promotes the Lie that experimenting with Drugs, Alcohol and Prescription Medicine is normalThe New “Normal!”  Teen Culture reinforces the following messages to our teens via music, movies, billboards, television and social media …

“Get Real!  That’s what teenagers do!”  

“You’re going to experience life at some point anyway!”

“It’s all part of growing up!”  

“No Big Deal!”

The challenges our teenagers deal with and the daily choices they have to make were foreign to us when we were their age and unimaginable to our parents when they were teenagers.  The Age of Innocence disappeared several generations ago … and there’s barely any evidence of it left.  I remember the Brady Bunch and the Huxtable Kids with amusement … but those nostalgic days are no more.  Poof!  Gone!  But you already know this.

The New “Normal!”

What I refer to as The New “Normal!” is often terrifying to parents.  Now imagine how terrifying it must be for our sons and daughters, especially those who choose NOT to identify with The New “Normal!”  I refer now to some of our teenagers who make positive choices and have Goals and Dreams they want to pursue.  These are fun-loving teenagers who are NOT interested in Getting High, Sexting or indulging in reckless irresponsible behaviors that jeopardize their health, safety and wellbeing.

The teens I refer to now are NOT winged-Angels.  They occasionally screw up and miss the Mark!  But their parents are proud of who they are becoming.  And each and every day, these teens try hard to behave in ways that make themselves proud of who they are becomingas they lean toward more Independence. read more …

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The Power of a Parent’s Tongue!

April 15, 2016

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

The Power of a Parent’s Tongue!

Today … I was inspired!  The inspiration came from Kyle “The Dream” Vidrine, whose Facebook page is brimming with Inspiration and Insight Here’s what I read on Kyle’s page:

“Life and death are in the power of the tongue!

We realize that we can hurt others by what we say. 

But do you realize that you can do the same to yourself?  

What you say to others is a direct reflection of what you say to yourself.”

The first line of Kyle’s quote is taken from Scripture.  The full statement has several powerful universal truths that raised a question in my mind.  Does Kyle’s statement hold true in Parent-Teen relationships?  Without the slightest doubt … I believe it does! 

I believe what we say to our children (especially our teen-children) can empower them to pursue their Dreams and aspirations with courage and confidence. But I also know that parents can clip the “wings” of their teenager’s Dreams and aspirations … and rob them of the self-confidence they need to achieve in other areas of life. This is devastating to teenagers.  In this post, I’m going to share some thoughts about the Power of a Parent’s Tongue(To reach Kyle’s Facebook page, CLICK HERE.) read more …

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Parenting in the Early “Middle” Years … Tart!

December 17, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

 Parenting in the Early “Middle” Years … Tart!

Here’s the 2nd Excerpt from “Mom and Dad Don’t Have a Clue!” Remember, we’re still looking back in time at what may have been your early parenting experience.

Level Five: Maintaining Control – A Delicate Balance!

Level Five is where parenting really gets dicey. Honesty and clear thinking on your part … is critically important. Ask yourself a bold question:

“Is controlling my teenager the most important thing to me?”

That question is critically important because it goes to the heart of your ability to cope with, recover from, and celebrate after the Turbulent Teen Years have run their course. So before you answer the question, let me interject a thought … read more …

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Fire Up Your Parental Engine!

October 22, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Fire Up Your Parental Engine!  Part 1

Today I’m offering ALL parents of teenagers an opportunity to get a free copy of my special report titled “Fire Up Your Parental Engine!” It’s a 19-page eBook available to everyone who completes the Email Signup form on the right side of this webpage. If you’re reading this post somewhere other than on my website … go there now to complete the Email Signup form.  You’ll be emailed a Link to download the eBook.

www.ParentingYourTeenforLife.com

A word of caution. If you are easily offended or don’t really want to read about “New Possibilities” to improve your Parent-Teen relationship … don’t bother signing up. You might not be able to stomach “Fire Up Your Parental Engine!”

I, affectionately, refer to the eBook as a Gift wrapped in lovely layers of unrelenting Tough Love. Others might describe it as an Iron Fist in a genteel Velvet Glove. Grab a copy and reach your own conclusion. read more …

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Celebrating Parents – The Wind Beneath Teen Wings

September 17, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

Celebrating Parents – The “Wind” Beneath Teen Wings!”

In last week’s blog I wrote the following about “Teens with Dreams!”

“I believe the more we celebrate our young people … the more inspired, motivated and positively challenged they will be to believe in their Dreams and in their ability to manifest them. I also believe the “Teens with Dreams!” series will help parents function more effectively as the Wind beneath the Wings of their teenagers who have Dreams.

I want us to begin celebrating the Wind beneath the Wings of “Teens with Dreams!” So today we focus on the Parent of Danette MaKaila … Dr. Linette Montae. You will recall from last week that Danette is the 17 year-old CEO of her company.  Dr. Montae is on my radar this week because she is the Wind beneath her daughter’s Wings in creating a thriving successful business. read more …

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The “Living Large” Dreams of Teenagers! Part 2

September 8, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

The “Living Large” Dreams of Teenagers!  (Part 2)

Parenting teenagers can be overwhelming, even if you’ve got some experience under your belt. There’s a lot going on with our teens … hormonal activity as well as brain activity! So it’s not wise to judge our teens too hastily or too harshly. Instead, our goal should be to parent mindfully and patiently … for best results.

As Part 2 of the Teens with Dreams series, I promised to introduce you to Danette Makaila, the 17 year-old CEO of Danette Makaila International. Writing about Danette is both a celebration of what she’s accomplished at such a young age and what other Teens with Dreams are doing here in the U.S. and around the world.

I believe the more we celebrate our young people … the more inspired, encouraged and positively challenged they will be to believe in their Dreams and their ability to accomplish them. I also believe the Teens with Dreams series will help parents learn how they can best SUPPORT their teens as they work to accomplish their Dreams. read more …

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The “Living Large” Dreams of Teenagers! (Part 1)

September 6, 2015

“The Parental Grapevine!”

A Cluster of Transformational Parenting Practices

  Malbec Grapes

The “Living Large” DREAMS of Teenagers!  (Part 1)

Does your teenager have a Dream? Do you know what it is?

Are you trying to get your teen to “tweak” that Dream … because YOU know it would be so much better if he or she just changed a few little things?

Are you giving instructions on how your teen should GO AFTER his or her Dream?

Do you …

STOP IT!

LEAVE YOUR TEENAGER’S DREAM ALONE!

Let’s allow our teens to “hold” the Dream in their Imagination … until it is so big and bright and beautiful … that they are compelled to chase it down and make it their own.

Let’s allow our teens to “breathe life” into their Dream … without us trying to give their Dream “mouth-to-mouth resuscitation” … because WE think they won’t do enough to keep the Dream alive. read more …

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